End Child Abuse

[dsimons]

April is Child Abuse Awareness Month. You are suppose to wear a blue ribbon in remembrance of victims and survivors. I'm a survivor so this subject really hits me hard. Charles, this is for you and your phriend Matthew too. I was physically abuse as a child. The abuse escalated with each abuser. I was withdrawn, and didn't trust anyone. My ex isolated me from my family and friends. I thought I was doing my "wifely" duty by trying to keep him happy. He had me believing that I could never make it on my own with five kid. I should have read the signs that he was also abusing my kid, but I was too scared for my own life that I didn't know what he was doing to them. Anyway, I did survive and so have they, even though it has taken a very long time to stop the pain. I don't think it's something that I'll ever truly get over. There will be a movie, a song, or even a smell that will trigger the memories of those horrible times. What I want each of you to realize how devastating abuse can be. If you know anyone who is being abused, be there for them. Take them to a counselor, a doctor, a preacher, or the cops if it's at all possible. Someone needs to know whats going on. In the meantime, won't you please take the time to say a prayer that God will protect these innocent children.

I want to share this song with you. This is what it was like to be abused. My ex's favorite saying was, "Who's going to believe you?" http://youtu.be/YEf00GC1rlQ
Diane

[Love Light Laughter]

My dear special phriend/friend,

HOW I admire your courage to come through all of this, let alone to then go on to bravely share your story with us, in the hope of helping others. I, for one, am honored that you would entrust all of us with such a deeply, deeply personal story. I am so sorry that your life had been filled with such pain, and feeling for so many years as though you had nowhere to turn must have been heart-wrenching. Knowing more of your full experience, from where you started to where you are today makes me respect you even more with how you have turned so many negatives into positive hopefuls, both for you and your family. And I am so grateful that you found your way to David and us. Take comfort that his constant message of God's never-ending love for each of us, as well as with our prayers, will help with more healing every day. Always remember you are precious, my phriend/friend, in His heart and ours.


Love and Light,

Lauri

[Roberta]

My dear special phriend/friend,

HOW I admire your courage to come through all of this, let alone to then go on to bravely share your story with us, in the hope of helping others. I, for one, am honored that you would entrust all of us with such a deeply, deeply personal story. I am so sorry that your life had been filled with such pain, and feeling for so many years as though you had nowhere to turn must have been heart-wrenching. Knowing more of your full experience, from where you started to where you are today makes me respect you even more with how you have turned so many negatives into positive hopefuls, both for you and your family. And I am so grateful that you found your way to David and us. Take comfort that his constant message of God's never-ending love for each of us, as well as with our prayers, will help with more healing every day. Always remember you are precious, my phriend/friend, in His heart and ours.


Love and Light,

Lauri

NO ONE COULD SAY IT BETTER THAN LAURI HAS. GOD BLESS YOU MY FRIEND.

[dsimons]

Thank you so much for your kind words, Lauri and Roberta. I just feel so deeply about this that I had to share it.

Diane

[Destgirl]

Thank you for sharing,and for being so brave:)
I was abused my whole childhood, in my youth and a couple of years ago when I was 26-28 years old. so I know the pain it causes. I really struggle today because of my story, but fighting to get my life back, so again thank you for sharing (i'm not alone )
I lost alot trough this time, of school and social because of this, and I don't handle another relationship, because i'm so scared of getting abused one more time. So i live alone, sometimes to scared to get out where there are people because the fear of evil men could hurt me again.. I know in my head that i'm safe, because i got away, but my body is so scared all the time.. and the flashbacks hit me all the time from my past and this last abusive relationship..
I hope I one day when i'm feeling better and the memory, nightmare doesn't hit this hard,and life is more than struggle that I can study something and maybe use my story to help others.. That is the hope i'm leaning on these day... I have a blog i write about it,write myself trough it.. some in english and some in norwegian (www.leteretterlivet.blogspot.com)

I pray all the time for these children, no one should go trough this, it ruin everyday life for a loong time.. So I'll continue praying everyday for this children <3

[dsimons]

I have shared some of my stories on here, not because I want to appear brave or courageous. I do it to help myself get over the pain, and I hope that I can help others.

I got this from a phriend of mine:

Shame says, "I am not enough." Vulnerability says, "I'm scared but I'm going to say/do it anyway." Choose the 2nd. Acknowledge your mistakes, say them out loud, but don't let them mean anything less about YOU as a person. Share your stories with people and lose the shame!!!!! Therein lies ultimate freedom.

When I share, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and it does give me a sense of freedom. I only hope and pray that by sharing I let people know that they are not alone. I'm hear to listen if they need to talk.

Your phriend,
Diane

[Destgirl]

I have shared some of my stories on here, not because I want to appear brave or courageous. I do it to help myself get over the pain, and I hope that I can help others.

I got this from a phriend of mine:

Shame says, "I am not enough." Vulnerability says, "I'm scared but I'm going to say/do it anyway." Choose the 2nd. Acknowledge your mistakes, say them out loud, but don't let them mean anything less about YOU as a person. Share your stories with people and lose the shame!!!!! Therein lies ultimate freedom.

When I share, I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders and it does give me a sense of freedom. I only hope and pray that by sharing I let people know that they are not alone. I'm hear to listen if they need to talk.

Your phriend,
Diane

(Obs: my english is not really good)
I know what you mean, I use my blog to get it out, and is helping me to write about it and meeting other in same situation who sharing stories or commenting my stories. I also read about things I feel and going trough in others stories, and that helps me alot. I don't feel so alone after I started blogging about it.

I think about you as brave for sharing because it is not an easy thing to do, because of the shame and guilt that follow after abuse. I'm glad you do share because I think when you tell your story you also help others in same situation and as you said help yourself when you write about it..
So thank you for sharing and I will keep you in my prayers..

Blessings
Destgirl

[cindytreadway]

i don't tell people this because its not my story to share, but my ex daughter in law allowed my two grandsons to be abused when my son was fighting to get back custody of them, back when they were about two and 5 years old...including holding their head under water, burning them with cigarettes, tripping the one into a heater and the list goes ON. When we got them, the one stuttered and the other was 3 and just sat and stared, didn't try to talk....she also has forced them to sleep out in the cold in a jeep, left them alone in the woods...let her boyfriend yank the one and twist his arm behind him and spit on him...the stories I could tell. And then we got them back in that condition...we had NO IDEA...my son even said while we were fighting for custody...oh she would NEVER let anybody HURt them...little did we know. The oldest one finally started talking about it when he was about 7. But now he's 14 and just ruined... he's so angry, the youngest one is in counseling weekly and doesn't remember nearly as much about it...sometimes the pain of this situation is just too much to bear, I'm not kidding...you have to put it in a separate compartment from what you normally think about so you won't be ruined, you know? I don't know how not to be bitter, I haven't figured it out yet. It would be different if they were ok now, but they're not, and neither is my son, and I don't know how to feel. Nor do I know why this has been allowed. All that whole time I was praying for their safety...and I just don't know what to think. It shapes my every interaction with people, and has for years, and I've been on anti anxiety medication for a long time cause I can't deal with it. THey were BABIES. Anyone who pulls out of abuse is brave, but I truly don't understand it. Its just at the core so wrong. You ruin a person before they even have a chance to live, you know?

[donna]

My heart breaks for each of your stories and the pain they reveal. Prayer for healing and strength for each situation. Sin and evil are alive and well BUT so, too, is the One who weeps with each of you. The One who will heal, comfort and strengthen. May each of you and all those who have had abusive experiences feel God's presence.

Blessings, Donna

[Destgirl]

i don't tell people this because its not my story to share, but my ex daughter in law allowed my two grandsons to be abused when my son was fighting to get back custody of them, back when they were about two and 5 years old...including holding their head under water, burning them with cigarettes, tripping the one into a heater and the list goes ON. When we got them, the one stuttered and the other was 3 and just sat and stared, didn't try to talk....she also has forced them to sleep out in the cold in a jeep, left them alone in the woods...let her boyfriend yank the one and twist his arm behind him and spit on him...the stories I could tell. And then we got them back in that condition...we had NO IDEA...my son even said while we were fighting for custody...oh she would NEVER let anybody HURt them...little did we know. The oldest one finally started talking about it when he was about 7. But now he's 14 and just ruined... he's so angry, the youngest one is in counseling weekly and doesn't remember nearly as much about it...sometimes the pain of this situation is just too much to bear, I'm not kidding...you have to put it in a separate compartment from what you normally think about so you won't be ruined, you know? I don't know how not to be bitter, I haven't figured it out yet. It would be different if they were ok now, but they're not, and neither is my son, and I don't know how to feel. Nor do I know why this has been allowed. All that whole time I was praying for their safety...and I just don't know what to think. It shapes my every interaction with people, and has for years, and I've been on anti anxiety medication for a long time cause I can't deal with it. THey were BABIES. Anyone who pulls out of abuse is brave, but I truly don't understand it. Its just at the core so wrong. You ruin a person before they even have a chance to live, you know?

I'm so sorry to hear about this situation. I will keep you all in prayer every day.
My story started from the day I was a little girl 2-4 years old, and I struggle even today. But God have done so much for me in this situation and I know that someday I will be okey and that he will use me and my story. God has been a good friend and hope in those dark times. That is' why I am on the way to a better life and hope that I can help other i same situation or open up my home for children who need that.
I hope and pray that God will meet you and the kids in a special way, healing and embrace you all with his love and protection.

Blessings
Destgirl